Sex is a defining feature of romantic relationships. From an evolutionary perspective, sex is essential for reproduction. Without it, the human species would die off. But some researchers have proposed that sex has a secondary function in humans and other animals whose offspring benefit from the presence of both parents—sex facilitates pair bonding and thus functions to keep couples happily together over time.

Recent animal research provides support for this idea. Specifically, research on monogamous prairie voles has directly linked sex to pair bonding by indicating that sex activates dopamine and neuropeptide (e.g., oxytocin, vasopressin) receptors in the brain’s reward circuitry that condition attachments to sexual partners. These same neural pathways have been linked to sexual arousal and sexual satisfaction among humans, which have been directly linked to the maintenance of relationship satisfaction over time.

Yet, there are costs to having constant or uninterrupted sex. First, throughout evolutionary history, time and energy spent on mating depleted resources otherwise available for survival hunting, gathering, and self-protection. Second, sperm concentration decreases with successive ejaculations and thus the likelihood of conception decreases as sexual frequency increases. In fact, peak sperm concentration appears to replenish after approximately one to three days of abstinence. Finally, due to the anatomical structure of the human penis, men risk displacing sperm during successive copulations. Taken together, these findings suggest that, in the context of monogamous, heterosexual relationships, remaining abstinent for several days may be reproductively adaptive. It is thus not surprising (from an evolutionary perspective) that young married partners (a) engage in sex approximately once every two to four days, (b) demonstrate reduced benefits of particularly frequent sex, and even (c) report reduced happiness when instructed to engage in more frequent sex in experimental research.

Given the crucial role of sex in pair bonding, how might humans remain pair-bonded while engaging in sex only intermittently? One possibility is that partners experience a sexual afterglow, or enhanced sexual satisfaction that lingers following sexual activity and functions to sustain the pair bond. But this possibility raises two questions. First, if couples do experience a sexual afterglow, how long does it last? Second, if couples experience a sexual afterglow, does it predict relationship outcomes over time?

My colleagues (Anastasia Makhanova, Lindsey Hicks, Juliana French, James McNulty, and Thomas Bradbury) and I set out to answer these questions. Specifically, we pooled the data from two independent, longitudinal studies of newlywed couples to address both questions. Spouses reported their daily sexual activity and sexual satisfaction for 14 days and their marital satisfaction at baseline and four or six months later.

Supporting the idea of a sexual afterglow, couples’ sexual satisfaction remained elevated approximately 48 hours after sex. That is, couples who engaged in sex on a given day continued to report higher levels of sexual satisfaction 48 hours later compared to couples who did not engage in sex on that given day.

Our model is based on the idea that a single act of sex promotes biological changes that are decoded as sexual satisfaction. We contend that afterglow emerges because these biological changes remain and continue to be decoded as sexual satisfaction for an extended period of time after the act of sex. Our data supported this idea—sexual satisfaction the same day and sexual satisfaction one day prior mediated the association between sex on a given day and sexual satisfaction two days later.

Additionally, analyses revealed that spouses who experienced a stronger 48-hour sexual afterglow reported higher levels of marital satisfaction at the start of their marriages and remain more satisfied four to six months later.

Together, these findings suggest that couples experience a sexual afterglow that functions to sustain the pair bond between acts of sex. On average, spouses reported enhanced sexual satisfaction following a single occurrence of sex that lasted 48 hours. Further, spouses who reported relatively higher (versus lower) levels of this sexual afterglow also reported relatively higher levels of initial marital satisfaction and remained more satisfied over time.

As far as we are aware, these are the first studies to quantify the length of sexual afterglow and to examine its benefits. Not only do these results join other studies in demonstrating the role of sex in promoting human pair bonding, but they also offer evidence for a novel reason why these links exist. Consistent with the adaptive nature of this afterglow, it appears to last approximately the same length of time (a) that it takes for sperm to replenish to peak concentrations, (b) that sperm remains maximally viable in the female reproductive tract, and (c) that elapses between acts of sex among newlyweds.


Andrea Meltzer is an Assistant Professor of social psychology at Florida State University. 

Quantifying the Sexual Afterglow: The Lingering Benefits of Sex and Their Implications for Pair-Bonded Relationships, Andrea L. Meltzer, Anastasia Makhanova, Lindsey L. Hicks, Juliana E. French, James K. McNulty, Thomas N. Bradbury, Psychological Science, Vol 28, Issue 5, pp. 587 - 598. First published date: March-16-2017